When the pandemic of the Coronavirus sailed across the Atlantic to America, the term
was introduced into our world. As I walked into the Post Office, there were yellow marks telling you where to stand. It reminded me of our elementary school days during P.E., when you had assigned seating with color coordinated positions. Ring a bell?
Whether you realize it or not, “Social Distancing” has always been amongst us. As you become more successful, friends you used to spend every day with just stop reaching out for no reason. Your friends’ interests change. You graduate from high school or college. Sometimes, it’s easy to look at yourself and ask:
“Did I do something wrong?”
“Why are things changing?”
“How come this is happening?”
Transforming into a different person doesn’t make you a bad friend. It just means that you’re progressing through life and giving yourself a purpose. And there is nothing wrong with that.
Let’s break down three different kinds of friends you will have throughout your life:
1. 5 Intimate Bonds.
These will include your best friends, spouse, significant other, etc. When shit hits the fan, these are the people who will listen to you whine about your problems. They won’t judge you. They will be blunt and to the point. These are the people who have your back but aren’t afraid to put you in your place when you need it.
2. 15 Close Friends.
Your gym buddy. Your dinner partner. Your Bachelorette Watching Squad. These are the people you spend time with on a regular basis. These are your friends that you socialize with more than anyone else, but they aren’t always people you want to confide in when something personal happens to you. Yet, when there are times of stress, you can rely on them to be there, sometimes.
3. 50 Friends.
Getting married? Throwing a 21st Birthday? Just want to go out to the pool and hang out? These are the people you send a text message to when you need to find a social activity. Whether it’s been two weeks or two months, these are the friends where you always pick up where you left off. Hakuna Matata, no worries. You may even ask yourself:
“Wow, I wish we hung out more!”
But you know deep down, it will never be that way. For some strange reason, your paths are on different projections, yet they seem to cross exactly when you need them to.
Joshua Krafchick CRPC®, EA